This week, the Little Miss Vanilla lingerie team take a closer a look at edging and orgasm control. Maybe ‘sexnique’ is something you’ve heard of before but perhaps never tried? Here, we discuss the ins and outs of edging – what it is, why it’s so good and how you can enjoy it.
What Is Edging?
Edging, also known as orgasm control, is where you bring yourself or your partner to the edge of orgasm and then stop all stimulation completely. Typically, you’d wait about 30 seconds and begin stimulation to bring yourself back to the point of orgasm. You can either stop and start again or give in to temptation.
Why you ask? Well, from a pleasure perspective, it really pays off. Stronger and longer orgasms are quite literally at the tips of your fingers.
Is It Worth It?
In a nutshell, yes. The longer you’re able to edge, the more intense the climax. So, if you can edge you/your partner three or even four times, you’re in for quite a treat! Sexual teasing naturally leaves you wanting more. Blood rushes to your genital area, allowing your penis or vulva to become engorged as you reach peak arousal. Once the ache of desire strikes, you’re in reach of an all-time high. By prolonging orgasm by stop-starting, you/your partner will eventually experience a more powerful and intense climax.
How Many Times Should You Edge Before Orgasm?
The Little Miss Vanilla lingerie team can confidently say that there is no official number to put to this. It’s completely your decision because you know your preferences better than anyone else. Be prepared for the need for orgasm to drive you wild after edging a few times though! As a side note, don’t worry, you can’t get ‘backed up’ from this technique, even if you decide not to orgasm.
When edging with your partner, communication is key for climax. Communicate when you’re ready to come, so that they can let you have that mind-blowing orgasm you’ve worked so hard for, and vice versa.
Getting Started
Solo exploration is often the best way to go when it comes this type of discovery. Try touching and stroking your erogenous zones with your hands and fingers, and you can even move onto toys if you feel confident enough. Depending on your gender, experiment with your vulva, clitoris, penis, testicles, perineum and anus and try different pressures and speeds when masturbating. Take time to find where feels good and what might bring you to orgasm. You can adapt these techniques on your partner too!
Edging Tips
Male: Just before you’re about to climax, squeeze the glans (the head) of your penis. Wait 30 seconds and get back to the build-up.
Female: Did you know that around 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm? Use a vibrator to stimulate yourself for the most intense climax and convenience for your hand! As orgasm approaches, remove/turn off the device, wait 30 seconds and start up again!
Both of these techniques increase sensitivity and can lead to intense orgasm.
The Best Sex Toys for Edging
Talking of sex toys, there are specific toys that you can use to make your edging experience even better! Sex toys are for anyone wishing to experience heightened pleasure and make edging even better! Here are just some of our top favourites at Little Miss Vanilla lingerie:
Vibrator - Vibrators are a full proof way to achieve stronger orgasm when edging. There are many on the market but our favourites to start off with are a small and simple bullet vibrator, or a vibrating wand. The bullet is a little more discreet and accessible, however the wand can really stimulate the clitoris in a way the fingers can’t! A wand can also be used easily by/on a partner. Both these devices have different vibrating patterns and speed settings, so be sure to experiment with them all!
Dildos - A dildo is another fun option! Size wise, we would recommend starting at 7 inches and investing in a super smooth silicon version for ultimate comfort. A dildo with a suction cup on the bottom means you can go hands free and stick to a flat surface, so you can have some fun anywhere!
Butt Plugs - The use of butt plugs can really enhance your edging experience. Having a kinky secret also adds an element of power play into intimacy! We would recommend a small silicone butt plug for comfort and convenience. Whilst your other erogenous zones are being stimulated, the anus contracts and releases, meaning the nerve endings in that region will be ultra-sensitive. For men, a butt plug can also help to stimulate the prostate.
Get in Touch
Edging is a great way to spice up your sex life and encourage longer and stronger orgasm! At Little Miss Vanilla lingerie, we are experts in all things seductive and erotic for all genders. With a passion for delivering the highest quality sex toys and lingerie to our vast customer base, we are strong believers that everybody can benefit from what we have to offer!
If you have any questions or queries, we’d love to hear from you. Simply get in touch with our expert team by filling out our contact form today.
